SEXUAL ABUSE

Hypnotherapy in Oakham and Rutland, Stamford and Leicester for Sexual Abuse:

CBT in Oakham and Rutland, Stamford and Leicester for Sexual Abuse:

If you are a victim of sexual abuse, you may remember some of it or you may not. If you don’t, there might be some nagging doubt or unexplained feeling about a certain person you have or used to have contact with; something you can’t put your finger on. You may have restrictive opinions and tastes, regarding sex – you may even prefer not to participate.

Somewhere inside will be feelings of betrayal by someone who you should have been able to trust. There will be other feelings. You may have told someone and weren’t believed or you may have not told anyone because you expected not to be believed. The feelings generated by this will be that you were betrayed again but, this time, by someone you should have been able to turn to. If you didn’t tell because you were told not to by your abuser, then you would have been programmed by them and will have walked through the rest of your life giving off signs to other abusers that you were groomed, ready for easy picking. These other abusers may only have been other children who bullied you at school or someone at every place of work who took advantage of you.

As a result, you are likely to be feeling Depression and probably Low Self Esteem and it is common for victims to have Paruresis or Shy Bladder Syndrome. If you don’t remember the abuse, these other problems will make your life doubly unhappy because you won’t know why you have them. How could you not remember? That is quite straight-forward. If something happened which was so overwhelming to your conscious mind, your subconscious will have stepped in and removed all trace of it and you will honestly believe it did not happen, even if someone suggested it did. Your subconscious is now doing overtime, looking after this secret and it will take overtime payment, without asking, by giving you neuroses (pieces of abnormal behaviour) like those mentioned earlier.

Often, the abuser is a family member whose spouse (if they have one) is afraid of them, along with everyone else in the family. No wonder some parents would refuse to accept being told that someting had happened. The abuser may be a powerful person in the community, putting them beyond reproach. Whoever the abuser is, the story of abuse would overturn so much that has been established for years, no wonder many parents don’t want to believe or act upon what their children say.

I will beleive you and you can tell me in a relaxed state, behind a closed door in a safe environment. None of the words spoken or emotion expressed will leave the room unless you choose to share it with somebody. The emotion will be the key and you will be surprised by it – after all, this will be the first time you have told anyone all of it. I use the words, “all of it”, because in hypnosis, even things that were buried because they seemed too much for your conscious mind to deal with, at the time, will come out. Instead of living with the impression made on a child, you will be able to reassess this as an adult.

People often have concerns if the abuser is still alive and the usual result of therapy is that the adult who was abused feels much relieved by the release reached in therapy. If the abuser is still alive, they often have been waiting for the victim to come and talk to them. Forgiveness brings a positive change to the continuing relationship. Sometimes, the abuser is still so certain of their invulnerability that they deny everything and a positive outcome is not possible. The events have happened, you will be able to change nothing except the effect they have over you today; you will be free. Contact me now and tell me what someone should have listened to a long time ago.